October 10, 7:30am Korina knocked at my room asking me to bring her to a doctor due to a stomach ache. I told her to go back to bed so she can sleep again and it might that the pain will be gone. But the pain stayed almost half day and this time she's vomiting. I decided now to brought her to a doctor and after explaining the cause of the pain the doctor injected her and let her sleep for a moment. The doctor advised me to admit Korina for farther observation but my girl refused to it, so we go home but I was given a doctor's prescription and advised to brought back Korina whenever the pain never stops. So the night came and I observe what Korina felt. The next day the stomach ache and the vomiting were gone but this time she's having a lose bowel movement hour after hour so I maintained her by giving her hydryte, skyflakes a biscuit brand and a soup from a steam rice to avoid dehydration. After going to the comfort room for eleven times, I gave her a medicine to control her bowel movement. So that night she sleeps okay but the next morning here comes the stomach ache again. So no choice, I had to bring her back to the doctor again for admission. I think this is not a simple stomach ache. So we were admitted but the doctor told me that again it is not proper to give a patient an instant medicine to stop the lose bowel movement because what if the pain was cause by a bacteria? Just give the patient an intake that will not make her dehydrated and as much as possible visit a doctor for some laboratory test. I really agree to what the doctor had said
and the next day we were discharge from the hospital.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
A Visit to My Sister In-law
That same day after Kathy left for her trip, I started preparing things for an another trip. It was me, my husband and Korina leaving for my husband's hometown. We will visit one of my sisters-in-law. It was a 42 km. drive away from our home and it will take us two hours to be there. We left at exactly ten in the morning from home but we arrived late for lunch time, due to super road traffic. We rested for a while and ate our lunch. My sister-in law prepared special variety of foods that day because it was her and her husband's wedding anniversary. After several hours I decided to take pictures of her beautiful orchid garden. And look how colorful the flowers are. This is the hobby of Josie, my sister-in-law. And look again that's one of the fruit bearing tree on their spacious yard. We picked the ripe ones and brought it home as gifts for some of my neighbors and relatives. We left at around five in the afternoon and arrived home so tired almost past eight in the evening.
A Hometown Trip
Two important things that a traveler must secure for a trip.
Bags enough to carry a five day out of town trip.We went to a department store near us to buy a new traveling bag for my daughter, Kathy. She's leaving tomorrow morning for an out of town destination. She will be with her classmates and some of her professor. They're the first batch of three groups to be there, to organize an event as part of their school activity. They will stay there for five days.The contribution paid was so high but it's okay for me because it happened that their school chooses my childhood hometown and it happened that the town is preparing for the " Maskarra Festival" starting today, for one week. I also secured a cash card for her so it will be easy for me to send her money if ever she run out of cash. I hope that the group will enjoy the trip.
Used Cars
i visit wwww.buy your car.com, i found used cars
That was 1997, I have my first car assembled by a friend whom I think had a lot of experienced to do so. I really trust my friend because experienced wise , he had so much of it. It took him almost two weeks to finished the job and I payed him Php10,000 for the service he rendered without a contract signed for both of us. So after that I registered my first car under my name. And now comes the road test. I asked a friend to do the road test because I don't know how to drive a car and at the same time my husband had just enrolled to a driving school to review how to drive because he somehow knows how to, but just forgotten some techniques in driving. I asked my friend to schedule the road test during my husband's free time to allow my husband to go with him. So they both tested the car. During one time of the test my husband noticed of noises in the lower portion of the car but he ignored it. And the next day they drove it again but suddenly it stops running. So the problem arises. I went back to my friend to tell him the problem but he didn't want do his back job. I can't forced him to do it because we have no contract signing before he accepted the job. I just looked for somebody to repair the damaged part and the problem was fixed but another cash out on my pocket. It was indeed an avoidable experience if I only consulted anyone who knows about the dealings of assembled cars. But I was happy then because until now the car is in our position and it helps me a lot of my buy and sell business anytime. In the year 2005, with God's blessings we were able to buy another car. This time a used car. You know what made us decided to buy a used car? Our budget was only good enough for a used one and we bought it from a well to do family and I'm sure it was well maintained by the owner. And besides I loved the color, white. We were the third owner of the car. The seller told me that they sold the white car to us because they want to replace it to a more spacious vehicle. And she told me that she's also buying a used car again instead of a brand new one. Used cars are cheaper than brand new and it's lesser on it's maintenance, she said. But make sure to bring an experienced mechanic to test the engine and other body parts of it to make sure your money's worth.And thanks we never encounter so much trouble with our used car but after two years we decided to sold it because we lost a parking space for it.
That was 1997, I have my first car assembled by a friend whom I think had a lot of experienced to do so. I really trust my friend because experienced wise , he had so much of it. It took him almost two weeks to finished the job and I payed him Php10,000 for the service he rendered without a contract signed for both of us. So after that I registered my first car under my name. And now comes the road test. I asked a friend to do the road test because I don't know how to drive a car and at the same time my husband had just enrolled to a driving school to review how to drive because he somehow knows how to, but just forgotten some techniques in driving. I asked my friend to schedule the road test during my husband's free time to allow my husband to go with him. So they both tested the car. During one time of the test my husband noticed of noises in the lower portion of the car but he ignored it. And the next day they drove it again but suddenly it stops running. So the problem arises. I went back to my friend to tell him the problem but he didn't want do his back job. I can't forced him to do it because we have no contract signing before he accepted the job. I just looked for somebody to repair the damaged part and the problem was fixed but another cash out on my pocket. It was indeed an avoidable experience if I only consulted anyone who knows about the dealings of assembled cars. But I was happy then because until now the car is in our position and it helps me a lot of my buy and sell business anytime. In the year 2005, with God's blessings we were able to buy another car. This time a used car. You know what made us decided to buy a used car? Our budget was only good enough for a used one and we bought it from a well to do family and I'm sure it was well maintained by the owner. And besides I loved the color, white. We were the third owner of the car. The seller told me that they sold the white car to us because they want to replace it to a more spacious vehicle. And she told me that she's also buying a used car again instead of a brand new one. Used cars are cheaper than brand new and it's lesser on it's maintenance, she said. But make sure to bring an experienced mechanic to test the engine and other body parts of it to make sure your money's worth.And thanks we never encounter so much trouble with our used car but after two years we decided to sold it because we lost a parking space for it.
Friday, September 25, 2009
Men are Men
That was 1985; I was twenty three years old then when I got married, after more than a year of living in with my husband. I have a five month old boy and my mother takes care of him. And I promise to protect my marriage whatever happened. 1986 we transferred to a new house we rented for five hundred pesos, to build a family. For the first four years of our relationship, everything was fine. There’s an argument sometimes but we patch up things easily. Even were having financial difficulties at that time, we survive because we both is working out to solve the problems. In 1989, the company where he was working offered a housing loan to all employees. And my husband luckily availed of the offer. So, I was very happy that we were able to have a house of our own and were paying only more than a thousand pesos a month. But before we transfer to our new, sixty square meter house, I gave birth to my second child. I have already two kids to attend to at the time we transferred to our new house. And this time my mother separates from us because she had to attend to my brothers and sisters who arrived from the province for good.
Our new house was two rides away from my husband’s work place. My neighbors include my husband’s co-employees. Since we got the second lot entering the subdivision, I put up a small retail store to help my husband on our financial needs. At first my life and business goes smooth, but there was a sudden change of schedule for me since I was alone now attending to so many household chores. While my husband sleeps the whole time his home, because he takes a night shift at work I did all the housekeeping. Like taking care of my two toddlers, managing my retail store, cooking of food for my husband before and after going to work. Because of the sudden change of my schedule, I lost the harmonious moment with my husband. Financial matters to me most due to added financial responsibilities. I even stop attending mass on Sundays. I would rather buy flowers and let a friend to bring it to church. That was my situation until one day a big trouble came. A friend told me that my husband was having an affair with another woman. I can't accept the fact that in spite of what I'm doing for our family life, still he can do this to me. As days goes by the news was getting obvious to me. I felt the coldness of my husband to what couples used to do and also he often came home late almost everyday. This alarmed me to get a proof of the news so I can directly confront him. I went to the girl's house where my husband makes a stop over everyday before going home from work. But I wasn’t able catch him there. My informer told me that the girl has two kids, look younger than me and working at a beer house nearby. I went to her house twice but I don’t made quarrel with her because I want to settle the problem peacefully. I just told her that if she continues her affair with my husband she will get nothing from him.
Then I started confronting my husband but he never admitted to me, the crime he was doing. Until days passed by, and my husband never came home anymore. So the pain goes deeper and my days are getting lonelier everyday. So what will I do next? Shall I stay here? Having two kids to take good care of and fed is not easy. I had to make a rush decision because we were totally abandoned by my husband.
I sold the unit immediately, because I was afraid that I can’t pay the monthly amortization. I deposited the money in the bank. I brought my kids to my mother’s house but we only stayed there for four days. I rented a small room for my kids minus my husband. Just for my kids I keep the line of communication open between my husband and me. It took weeks before he visited us in our new house. This time I keep my self busier again to earn money since I can’t force my husband to give me his full salary. Jealousy is still there, I know I can’t gain him back easily. Every body is affected due to the hurt aches that I felt. Sad to say, I lost my self confidence.
After two months without the knowledge of my husband and with the help of my friends and my father-in law, I manage to buy a new lot and built a small house on it. I didn't know if he was surprised of what I've done, but somehow I'm sure he was. That was the month of May, 1990.
The routine still the same, he visits us once a week. But he didn't forget to bring his one sack of rice from the company. During his pay day I had call to him to set where and what time am I going to get a part of his salary. I felt I'm a beggar begging for a piece of bread. I can't imagine myself at that time but one thing I'm only sure of, is to make sure my kids are safe and eating at the right time. I even applied and was hired as nanny for Pakistan just to escape from my marital problem. I have my flight schedule but my mother opposed of my plan so I decided to stay.
Another problem arises in 1991, when I visited my obstetrician and I was diagnosed of chronic cervicities. That when I told my husband about it, he accused me of getting the disease from mating with other man. A very bad allegation but I don't take it seriously, I know myself better. I was sick at that time of that same year when I was struck of very sad news that my mother was diagnosed of stage two, cervical cancer. She was brought back to our province to have her recovery and my youngest sister and some of my relatives attended her but after several months she died. I was very thankful that my husband sent money to help my mother's memorial expenses. After the burial, we went home from the province. The death of my mother was a wake up call to me. If I was able to survive the pain losing my mother, may be I can also afford to lose my husband if I'll try. To many advices coming from a lot of my friends still I didn't listen from one of them. I did a lot of strategies to win him back but nothing happened. Until one day I discovered myself kneeling at the church asking the Lord to guide me because I can't trust anybody. I started fixing myself to regain my confidence. As much as possible I have to be strong even I felt my weakness inside of me, to face what's happening. I went to church weekly. I cried out and release all the things that bothered my mind including having a child of my husband to other woman. Attending masses has a lot of things to do with my problems. It teaches me to accept the fact that everything I see and hold is not mine, including my husband. Every thing was just a borrowed materials and I will just left it here, the day I die. I was mellowed by the word of God. I practiced humility and trust the Lord that he's in control over my problems. And suddenly everything changed unexpectedly. My husband was reformed and the last thing I know, I was pregnant of my third child. But since my husband had a group in his work, I can't stop him to go with them and enjoyed their boys out during pay day. This time even I know and I felt that he started flirting again, I don't really care. May be to others I was numb to it. But the thing they don't know is; in my mind I know God never stops working and I fell it. I shared this experience not to praise my being a survivor, but to encourage mothers to give a chance to any problem we encountered for the sake of the kids and God that binds us one. Men are not to be blame for broken marriages all the time, because men are men. They always give excuses to their hang ups in life. Kids are always to consider but if things really got worst and respect is to hard to find we have our options as human being...... think twice!
Our new house was two rides away from my husband’s work place. My neighbors include my husband’s co-employees. Since we got the second lot entering the subdivision, I put up a small retail store to help my husband on our financial needs. At first my life and business goes smooth, but there was a sudden change of schedule for me since I was alone now attending to so many household chores. While my husband sleeps the whole time his home, because he takes a night shift at work I did all the housekeeping. Like taking care of my two toddlers, managing my retail store, cooking of food for my husband before and after going to work. Because of the sudden change of my schedule, I lost the harmonious moment with my husband. Financial matters to me most due to added financial responsibilities. I even stop attending mass on Sundays. I would rather buy flowers and let a friend to bring it to church. That was my situation until one day a big trouble came. A friend told me that my husband was having an affair with another woman. I can't accept the fact that in spite of what I'm doing for our family life, still he can do this to me. As days goes by the news was getting obvious to me. I felt the coldness of my husband to what couples used to do and also he often came home late almost everyday. This alarmed me to get a proof of the news so I can directly confront him. I went to the girl's house where my husband makes a stop over everyday before going home from work. But I wasn’t able catch him there. My informer told me that the girl has two kids, look younger than me and working at a beer house nearby. I went to her house twice but I don’t made quarrel with her because I want to settle the problem peacefully. I just told her that if she continues her affair with my husband she will get nothing from him.
Then I started confronting my husband but he never admitted to me, the crime he was doing. Until days passed by, and my husband never came home anymore. So the pain goes deeper and my days are getting lonelier everyday. So what will I do next? Shall I stay here? Having two kids to take good care of and fed is not easy. I had to make a rush decision because we were totally abandoned by my husband.
I sold the unit immediately, because I was afraid that I can’t pay the monthly amortization. I deposited the money in the bank. I brought my kids to my mother’s house but we only stayed there for four days. I rented a small room for my kids minus my husband. Just for my kids I keep the line of communication open between my husband and me. It took weeks before he visited us in our new house. This time I keep my self busier again to earn money since I can’t force my husband to give me his full salary. Jealousy is still there, I know I can’t gain him back easily. Every body is affected due to the hurt aches that I felt. Sad to say, I lost my self confidence.
After two months without the knowledge of my husband and with the help of my friends and my father-in law, I manage to buy a new lot and built a small house on it. I didn't know if he was surprised of what I've done, but somehow I'm sure he was. That was the month of May, 1990.
The routine still the same, he visits us once a week. But he didn't forget to bring his one sack of rice from the company. During his pay day I had call to him to set where and what time am I going to get a part of his salary. I felt I'm a beggar begging for a piece of bread. I can't imagine myself at that time but one thing I'm only sure of, is to make sure my kids are safe and eating at the right time. I even applied and was hired as nanny for Pakistan just to escape from my marital problem. I have my flight schedule but my mother opposed of my plan so I decided to stay.
Another problem arises in 1991, when I visited my obstetrician and I was diagnosed of chronic cervicities. That when I told my husband about it, he accused me of getting the disease from mating with other man. A very bad allegation but I don't take it seriously, I know myself better. I was sick at that time of that same year when I was struck of very sad news that my mother was diagnosed of stage two, cervical cancer. She was brought back to our province to have her recovery and my youngest sister and some of my relatives attended her but after several months she died. I was very thankful that my husband sent money to help my mother's memorial expenses. After the burial, we went home from the province. The death of my mother was a wake up call to me. If I was able to survive the pain losing my mother, may be I can also afford to lose my husband if I'll try. To many advices coming from a lot of my friends still I didn't listen from one of them. I did a lot of strategies to win him back but nothing happened. Until one day I discovered myself kneeling at the church asking the Lord to guide me because I can't trust anybody. I started fixing myself to regain my confidence. As much as possible I have to be strong even I felt my weakness inside of me, to face what's happening. I went to church weekly. I cried out and release all the things that bothered my mind including having a child of my husband to other woman. Attending masses has a lot of things to do with my problems. It teaches me to accept the fact that everything I see and hold is not mine, including my husband. Every thing was just a borrowed materials and I will just left it here, the day I die. I was mellowed by the word of God. I practiced humility and trust the Lord that he's in control over my problems. And suddenly everything changed unexpectedly. My husband was reformed and the last thing I know, I was pregnant of my third child. But since my husband had a group in his work, I can't stop him to go with them and enjoyed their boys out during pay day. This time even I know and I felt that he started flirting again, I don't really care. May be to others I was numb to it. But the thing they don't know is; in my mind I know God never stops working and I fell it. I shared this experience not to praise my being a survivor, but to encourage mothers to give a chance to any problem we encountered for the sake of the kids and God that binds us one. Men are not to be blame for broken marriages all the time, because men are men. They always give excuses to their hang ups in life. Kids are always to consider but if things really got worst and respect is to hard to find we have our options as human being...... think twice!
Thursday, September 03, 2009
Guard on duty
We can't easily catch her giving us this kind of pose. But this time my nephew was fortunate to stole a shot at her last March, while everybody were busy inside the house. My three year old pet, Chao. She barks at anyone who enters our house especially at night. Keep up the good work, Chao!
Wednesday, September 02, 2009
Soul searching
The verses of these books renewed by being many years ago when I was down, low..... Just keep calling, GOD is just a prayer away.
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